Part Sixteen

Can I Hear Myself Into Being?

Joan Lansberry

August 19, 1997

Tyan

In our car, going from Tucson to Casa Grande, I had the most appreciative audience for my singing. Zahzee, Tyan's aging feline, laid on my lap and was quite entertained by all the songs I could remember. Old show tunes, folk tunes, even Christmas carols were part of the concert. When I got sleepy and dozed off, Zahzee resumed her plaintive meows, so Laura took over the singing.

Zahzee, a black long-haired cat with the most mystical greenish yellow eyes, will be making her new home here with us. Helina emptied out her adjoining room in the new addition to make space. Momma Tyan is coming too! Tyan is an author of some renown, having written a novel called Clicking Stones, a delightful love story that celebrates the child within us all. We met Tyan when we were living north of Tucson. Joanna Russ, another author, wrote to Julia inquiring about what the Tucson Mensa group was like. Julia and Laura went to a writer's meeting where they met Joanna. Tyan was at that meeting. We were immediately attracted to Tyan and felt an instant kinship. We look forward to having her be part of us. There are FIVE in the "tribe" now.

 


 

August 26, 1997

Soaking my soul in a case of the blues, the thought came to me that perhaps it was not only my sadness, but that of other people I was absorbing.

CRY

What happens to tears
that are not shed?
Do they pour from the heavens
and fill up the oceans and lakes
until the overflowing spills
into the streets?
For each ache denied,
everywhere the falling rain.
Would grief be given its due?
The inner garden needs its drenching.

JAL, 8-26-97

August 27, 1997

It was another dizzying hot day at work. The recent rains have added humidity to the heat. I felt miserable, until I walked out into the furnace-hot Hades of the pressing areas, Those working at the presses were soaked wet with sweat. The Sonoran desert heat can seem brutal. After work, cooling off in our air-conditioned home, I read about a people living in another sort of truly brutal climate.

The latest issue of the National Geographic contains a story about a people living in a land about as different from the Arizona desert as I can imagine. The Inuit of Northern Canada live in a frigidly harsh climate. The winter night lasts seven weeks. In November, the sun only makes a brief appearance just over the horizon. In this cold land, only the hardiest live in small villages very remote from each other. "Traveling among the 28 towns of Nunavut was like flying from planet to planet across empty space. I would leave one tiny cluster of boxy government-built houses and fly for hours across icebound bays, glaciers, or frozen swampland before the next little village showed like a handful of pebbles on the horizon," wrote Michael Parfit. July heat averages only 43 degrees Fahrenheit.

Yet the people are glad to live in this place and look forward to the future in which they take over leadership of the territory which Canada has rebordered and renamed Nunavut, "our land". Their lives, which depended in the past mostly on hunting, have undergone many changes. From a culture that did not require money, they had to learn how to deal with money when they were forced to settle in communities and no longer be nomadic. Abuse of alcohol and drugs remains a temptation for many adrift between the old and new worlds. Yet the schooling, warm houses and medical care enable the Inuit to live longer. And the people have a new hope. They struggle to keep the best of the old values as they anticipate having their own people govern them. A hint of what the future government will be like was given at a long debate in the future capital of Iqaluit. Everyone presented their positions calmly, with a sincere desire to come to agreement. Many changed their minds on various points, rather than insist on making everyone take their position. Survival in this harsh world is easily understood to depend more on co-operation than competition. "It struck me that this calmness and civility must have worked well in the small nomadic groups. Even if you disagreed fiercely with your neighbor, you still had to trust him with the harpoon at the ice edge."

One man complained that " The money brings greed. Ever since I started talking to my parents and realizing who I am, I have felt bad about where we're going. Money is dividing up the family." He and many others are seeking a return to old values. For "..stature among the Inuit had nothing to do with wealth. A male Inuk (singular for Inuit) was highly regarded for hunting skills, calmness under stress, the ability to make decisions, and how abundantly he shared meat."

The simplicity which gives them strength is shown in this Inuit poem which the author quotes:

And yet, there is only
One great thing,
The only thing:
To live to see in huts and on journeys
The great day that dawns,
And the light that fills the world.

August 30, 1997

Going through old magazines and catalogs, throwing out the outdated catalogs, sorting out magazines to keep and those to go to Bookman's for recycling, I glanced at one old magazine while taking a break. This poem of tranquil simplicity caught my eye and gave me a 'breather':

Breathing in, I know I am
breathing in.
Breathing out, I know I am
breathing out.

Breathing in, my breath grows deep.
Breathing out, my breath goes slowly.

Aware of my body, I breathe in.
Relaxing my body, I breathe out.

Calming my body, I breathe in.
Caring for my body, I breathe out.

Smiling to my body, I breathe in.
Easing my body, I breathe out...

Thich Nhat Hanh

from The Blooming Lotus, quoted by Light of Consciousness, Vol. 8 No. 2

August 31, 1997

At 5:30 in the still dark morning, the phone rang. Laura's Mother had shocking news she couldn't wait to share. Princess Diana was dead as the result of a car accident. It seemed not quite real, not quite possible. And so I took to the web to learn more.

In this world which is getter smaller and smaller, the events in another country seem as close as those in our own borders. And so it is that a princess in England became truly the world's Princess. In 1981 the marriage of Lady Diana Spencer and Prince Charles had the largest audience of any wedding in the world. I, along with my Grandmother, sat entranced in front of the television screen that magical day in July. It seemed like a fairytale. And we are a people so wanting fairytales, for the world can be a hard place.

We read with interest as Princess Diana gave birth to royal heir Prince William in June of the following year. In 1984 Prince Harry was born. We rejoiced in this happy family. But all wasn't as it appeared. The tabloids soon gave rumors of trouble, and it was verified with Diana: Her True Story, a biography published in 1992. Her moodiness and bulimia were public knowledge, gobbled up by people who love "the dirt" on celebrities. So were Prince Charles infidelities with a Camilla Parker-Bowles. Every issue of The Enquirer reported their latest episodes. Even Queen Elizabeth encouraged them to divorce and so, one year ago the divorce was final.

Media interest didn't quit, however. Diana was stripped of the HRH title, but kept the Princess of Wales title. She continued her efforts at good works. She campaigned to end the use of land mines. Her concern for AIDS victims will never be forgotten. In 1987 at a London hospital, her embrace of an AIDS patient did help to change people's attitudes. So although the other royals were often irritated with her, she had the love of the people. In an interview conducted shortly before her death, she said "I feel very close to people, no matter who they are. That is why I disturb certain circles. Because I am much closer to the people down below than those on top and the latter won't forgive me for that." Adding "My father always taught me to treat anybody like an equal. I always did, and I am sure that Harry and William have learned that too," she said in the interview with Le Monde.

Maybe it was people's fascination with her that encouraged the media to keep her in the spotlight. When Diana was rumored to have a new sweetheart, a Dodi Fayed, wealthy heir to the Harrod's Department Stores, media attention was at an all-time high. Paparazzi desperate for pictures of the sweethearts smooching lay in wait everywhere for them, as they were vacationing in the Mediterranean. Thirty photographic vultures waited for them in front of the Hotel Ritz in Paris. Hoping to give them the slip, they snuck out the back way, using a car borrowed from the establishment. The plan didn't work. According to a photographer for the Daily Mirror, at least one motorcycle and one auto, and possibly more, carrying ten to fifteen photographers were in pursuit of the Mercedes carrying Diana, Fayed, a bodyguard and the chauffeur. They headed west through a four-lane below-ground tunnel. The chase was intense and the chauffeur may have been going as fast as 85 miles an hour, possibly even as much as 120mph, in an area whose speed limit was 35. The attempt to elude the hounds resulted in tragic disaster. It appeared that the car had hit a concrete dividing wall, ending up facing the opposite way from traffic. When it was removed, " it was clear the car was virtually crushed. The grille was pushed back two-thirds of the way toward the dashboard, and the roof was smashed down to the level of the seats in front. The windshield was smashed, and the front wheels also were pushed back. "(from a Washington Post article) The sole person to survive was the bodyguard. Diana, only thirty-six, suffered grave head injuries and died around 4:00 am Paris time after going into cardiac arrest.

In the interview given to Le Monde, a French newspaper, and published only last Wednesday in the Associated Press wires, she was quoted as saying: "The press is ferocious. It forgives nothing and is only hunting down mistakes. Each act is twisted, each gesture criticized."She added " I think in my place any sane person would have left a long time ago. But I can't. I have my sons."

The vicious photographers certainly hunted her like she was prey. She had asked them to quit, but they would not. And now this, the final escape. No photographers can follow her now. But if they could, they'd surely line the walls of St. Peter's Gate, panting for one last picture.

later this day...

Still feeling stunned with the news of Diana's death, we were gladdened when Laura's niece Sharon, her husband Matt and their five month old baby came to visit. Little Kristin is a beautiful babe, with expressive eyes that study your every move. You can see her intently trying to understand everything. She laid on Julia's lap, mesmerized by her banter, until the concentration of trying to figure it out tired her out. She soon fell asleep in secure serene slumber. I could visualize Kristin as a tall, slender adult with a confident, lively manner. She will be a leader someday. The sweet preciousness of new life seems all the more sweeter after the tragic sorrow of the news.

September 3, 1997

Last night was an especially nice contrast to the past couple of days. Monday morning I felt quite blue as I did doing my sewing. Then Laura and I quarreled over nothing much, and Julia, who remained calm, reminded us of where it's all coming from. We all have had diet crankiness and occasionally snap at each other. The diet is good, we are losing weight. We're finding it easier to move around better. But sometimes we do get cranky. We had been used to indulging ourselves with food whenever we felt sad, bad and sulky. Now we must learn new ways. But it is certainly worth it. I feel better not taxing myself with excessive food. My joints and digestive system will be less strained. Laura and Julia are feeling more energetic. And with all three of us working as a united front, we are able to give encouragement to each other. In the afternoon, when my sinuses flared up terribly, Laura gently led me from the sewing room, and told me I'd done enough for the day. I willingly followed, and I didn't hurt so bad in the evening.

The next morning, however, the sinus pain was stronger than ever. Laura went to the store to get me some Actifed, but it didn't do much good. I hurt too much to do any sewing, so I mostly slept. After lunch, my mood and sinuses improved. I was able to finish my sewing. The music of Capercaillie seemed like an incantation against sinus pain and adversity. I'm so drawn to their music. There is something quite empowering, in words I don't understand. It's a strange mystery. Maybe it works because the Scots Gaelic can mean anything, and you hear from the heart the emotions they are conveying, chiefly the strength to persevere. Anyway it was healing. By the time suppertime came, I felt whole.

The evening was for true relaxation. All of us, Laura, Julia, Helina, Tyan, I and even James played this computer game called Heroes of Might and Magic. It's a game in which you play a type of hero: knight, barbarian, sorceress, wizard, warlock or necromancer. Each hero type has its own set of defenders. I like to play the sorceress. I like its army of sprites, archers, unicorns and phoenixes. Also your castle can have a neat rainbow above it giving luck in defense to your warriors. The previous night's epic battle resulted in the loss of one hero, the barbarian, which had been played by Helina. So Tyan let Helina play her character, a knight. Tyan had other plans. She brought over a massage table, and one by one, when it wasn't our turn at the computer, she gave us each a massage. She's had some training at this and thus is a real pro. She said she knows us all better now, by knowing our backs and the tight little spots of tension. . My neck and back never felt so relaxed. It was a wonderful gift. Afterwards we all massaged Tyan. Though not possessing her skills, we seemed to have relaxed her as well. It was a thoroughly refreshing night.

September 4, 1997

When we first moved to Casa Grande, I didn't like it, for compared to Tucson, it seemed barren. Tiny scraggles of bushlets sparsely placed in a flattish tan terrain was the typical environment. However it doesn't look like that anymore. The grass is a deep green and is lush. Bushes have grown tall and wide. New bushes have sprung up everywhere. Casa Grande has become a green place because of all the rain we've been having. Perhaps I should quit complaining of the rain!

September 6, 1997

A letter arrived from my Mother the other day. She had decorated the back of the envelope with four or five airplanes, from rubber stamps, and had drawn in clouds, and each plane was identified as to its specific type. I showed the envelope to everyone so they could see. She's never had the traditional interests of a woman and has always been interested in planes and cars. She always could tell you the make and model of any car when I was young.

She said she was still waiting on the information about her ancestors, but she did find an old paper she had saved with information on my Horschler relatives. Henry Horschler, the father of my grandfather, married a woman named Margaret Molahan. Molahan is as Irish as it gets. So I am verifiably one-eighth Irish! One-eighth is enough to claim membership in a American Indian tribe!

Tyan shared with us about her mother. She's been blessed to have been born to a very unique mother also. When Tyan was eighteen, she learned that her mother was lesbian like herself. She was in a twenty-eight year long relationship with one woman. Her mother wrote songs and Tyan played the demo tapes that a group cut of them. The songs were all varied, about many different things. One about gypsies was special and another that she had written caused Tyan to cry. It was about missing someone who was no longer there. Tyan's mother died in 1989. But while she was here, she truly let the light of her creative soul show..

September 11, 1997

While finishing my tranquil morning bath, I wrang water out of my hair and became mesmerized watching the effects of the droplets.

Into the pool,
water droplets
fall,
causing rings that ever widen.
I am both of droplets and pool.

JAL, 9-11-97

September 14, 1997

Can I sing
over the roar of the crowd?
Will my note remain steady
and true?
Can I hear myself
into being?
One pulse at a time,
the rhythm is within.
One pulse at a time.

JAL,9-14-97

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